So once in a while I’ll post a blog topic that is serious.
This is one of them.
Don’t worry, its rare.
I’ve had this “theory” about team leadership and their differences from men to women. What I am about to explain is just a theory, an idea that I came up with on my own. I’ve never seen any articles written about this topic, so I’m not sure if any of this is new or has been written to death. If it makes any sense please feel free to comment, if you disagree with what I’ve written please feel free to express your understanding.
In this theory, the ways men and women approach their vast knowledge and experience and express that, is key to understanding what I’m going to write. So please keep that in mind as you read on. Also, in no way is this HOW EVERY WOMAN OR MAN ACTS, it is only my experience.
When I was in Afghanistan (I wasn’t in the military by the way, and in no way was in any kind of danger) working with both female and male bosses, I began to formulate the ideas of this theory. Even working in the corporate world I saw some of the precepts of this theory. You see, men have a very interesting way of expressing knowledge and experience.
Its always been my belief that men who are quick to say, “Yeah I was in Afghanistan,” or “Yeah I was in combat.” Really haven’t done a lot. They probably were in Afghanistan, but spent their whole tour in a warehouse safely protected. They probably call “combat” hearing a rocket explode a mile away safely tucked into their comfy sleeping bag.
In a nut shell, any man who is quick to shout his accomplishments 5 minutes into a conversation either has low self esteem or really didn’t do the things he’s claiming. Its also something I think men are trained to understand from our early teen years. A man who is a braggart is most likely full of BS.
Now compare that with any Medal of Honor winner. They are ALWAYS very humble about what they did. Even hating the idea of showing any kind of glamor. One of my good friends was in Iraq and Afghanistan. As an Explosive ordnance disposal tech, the guy disarmed over 800 IEDs (bombs) in one tour alone. How long did it take to find out this information out? Over a year and half and multiple drunken nights involving lots of beers.
Now that we have laid out the groundwork for men lets talk about the ladies.
I’ve worked with some female new hires, women who just started their brand new job fresh out of college. Every single time, they are apt to keep their heads down and try to absorb as much information as possible. They’ll ask a lot of questions but more than likely will only express knowledge on a job related topic if they are challenged on it. They are happy to learn, but will rarely jump right out and express the confidence that they know exactly what they’re doing. To be fair many new male hires have acted the same way too.
Comparing that with experienced female managers.
This is where things get interesting.
A confident female manager with years of experience, is more apt to come into a work atmosphere where her choices are second guessed, or doubts about her abilities surface. This is where she makes a mistake.
Interested only in squashing those doubts, an experienced female manager will throw out her accomplishments as fast as possible. She’ll want people to understand that she knows exactly what she’s doing so she lets them know, “I got a 4.0 from Harvard business school, I’ve successfully managed 3 companies.” She may know exactly what she’s doing, but has made a mistake in the way she expressed it with her male subordinates.
Understanding how men view experience, what do you think their reaction of her is? Do you think they will disregard her accomplishments, because she was so quick to throw them out there? I don’t find fault with the female manager, she wants her people to believe in her and trust her leadership. She is expressing her experience in a way she thinks will make her workers believe in her.
I personally find this stuff fascinating. Male and female understanding can make for a better work atmosphere.
If you have your own experiences to share, or if you think I’m full of it let me know down below. (In the comments section you pervert)